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Niveous wrote:I was a poly for about 5 years. It's a tough way to live sometimes. Best of luck with that, Jon.

You know, I had a feeling you were. I just never wanted to pry. Except I got the impression they were bi-sexual and you were one luckymuthafuka-sexual. But sadly, all good things must come to an end.




......exes phone numbers, please?

Märk wrote:

Caravan Ray wrote:I had to give up that polyamory stuff because I was putting on too much weight. Everytime I shagged BLT's missus she gave me a cookie.

You got cookies? She just paid me in cash.

Goddammit! I was wondering where all my cookies and money have been going! 8)

inevitableguy wrote:

Billy's Little Trip wrote:
Can I have sex with your wife?

Damn. Why didn't I think to ask that?

Well, y'all have to get her to like you first... So no.

Niveous wrote:I was a poly for about 5 years. It's a tough way to live sometimes. Best of luck with that, Jon.

I appreciate the well wishes. In the last two months in particular, it's been pretty up-and-down: I've started my first serious relationship since we opened up the relationship, and Allyson just ended hers. It doesn't help matters that I met my girlfriend through her then-boyfriend - they're in the same PhD program. Awkward!

Anyways, I'm not fdrink ruight now, so I'll shut up.

I'm actually not much a fan of poly relationships myself, because they do get complicated and I'm not personally wired for the whole "free love" thing. I have only ended up in one because I've fallen pretty hard for someone who is quite poly, and I'm trying to make it work but there are definitely challenges involved, especially since I'm clearly not his primary anymore (but he insists that we're "not in competition"). The other one and I do get along well enough, I guess, but it still feels shitty whenever he refers to my boyfriend as his "partner."

Basically, the problem with polyamory is that everyone needs to be on board, and with N participants you have (N^2-N)/2 links, and roughly 3^((N^2-N)/2) possible ways that those links are interacting at any given time (given that each link could be good, bad, or neutral). That last number in particular gets really big really fast, and all it takes is one bad vibe to make the whole thing tumble down like a house of cards.

Well, it's the same as any social group, really, but the stakes are higher. Or maybe they're exactly the same and it's just that this generation's notion of "relationship" has a much lower bar than previous ones.

Is there a polyamory type relationship where I can have girlfriends, but my wife and girlfriends are forbidden to haz sexy time with anyone except me?

......and they have to make me a sammich after sex or they'll be arrested?

If there is no such thing, then my next question is, does anyone know how to invent and patent new relationships?

edit: Oh, and can someone link me to a site on the interwebz that sells brainwashing machines that specifically make womenz think that poly'slittletripamory is the best thing since sliced pumpernickel?

I believe that's called "being a polygamist asshole," or perhaps "keeping a harem."

fluffy wrote:I believe that's called "being a polygamist asshole," or perhaps "keeping a harem."

Whoa whoa whoa whoa......................whhHhhhHhoa! Hold it right there, Mr. Who said anything about marriage or women dressed like I dream of Jeanie? 8)

The only women making polyga mist come out of my magic lamp are non veil wearing girls that don't get half my shit when they get sick of me.

fluffy wrote:I'm actually not much a fan of poly relationships myself, because they do get complicated and I'm not personally wired for the whole "free love" thing. I have only ended up in one because I've fallen pretty hard for someone who is quite poly, and I'm trying to make it work but there are definitely challenges involved, especially since I'm clearly not his primary anymore (but he insists that we're "not in competition"). The other one and I do get along well enough, I guess, but it still feels shitty whenever he refers to my boyfriend as his "partner."

Basically, the problem with polyamory is that everyone needs to be on board, and with N participants you have (N^2-N)/2 links, and roughly 3^((N^2-N)/2) possible ways that those links are interacting at any given time (given that each link could be good, bad, or neutral). That last number in particular gets really big really fast, and all it takes is one bad vibe to make the whole thing tumble down like a house of cards.

Well, it's the same as any social group, really, but the stakes are higher. Or maybe they're exactly the same and it's just that this generation's notion of "relationship" has a much lower bar than previous ones.

Yeah, I hear you.

To be honest with you, the "You're not competing" thing never sits right with me, either, for most practical purposes, because even though capital-L Love is not a finite resource, time most definitely is. So even if you're not technically competing for affection, attention, or warm fuzzies, you're definitely still competing for your common partner's time.

I work 40 hours a week (and not one of those easy-to-work with 40 hours a week, I'm talking nights and weekends here). I've got to divide the remaining time between Allyson, Missy, and recording songs. I'm a little bit amazed that I've got time to poop these days.

Plus, yeah, the whole interconnectedness of it... brian wasn't talking about poly relationships when he drew this comic, but it's as apt an explanation as I've ever found.

So yeah, it can get complicated. And it can get complicated real fast. Here's my pontification, since it seems to have worked for me so far...

Stay in touch, communicate small concerns, all that crap that relationship advice people tell you to do. But I also think it's important that these open communications be done with a casual mood, one of lightheartedness, if possible, and should be received in the same way. It can get exhausting if you're having these big emotional "how is everyone with this arrangement" talks every few days, and that makes people want to avoid communicating.

Generic wrote:I've got to divide the remaining time between Allyson, Missy, and recording songs.

You magnificent bastard!

Generic wrote:I'm a little bit amazed that I've got time to poop these days.

Blumpkin.

the problemew with thsi thread is that i cnja enver find it when i need it.

Spud wrote:the problemew with thsi thread is that i cnja enver find it when i need it.

You stand corrected.

Billy's Little Trip wrote:

Spud wrote:the problemew with thsi thread is that i cnja enver find it when i need it.

You stand corrected.

Didn't sound like anyone was "standing"...

Best procrastination method ever: listen to *everything* you've ever recorded in the hopes of finding some sort of inspiration/something you can clean up and flog for some cash, hehh.

For the record, vodka + San Pellegrino's Lemonita is quite refreshing.

And, damnit, I miss my punk band.

Rabid Garfunkel wrote:I miss my punk band.

Start a new one!

Also, I can't listen to my own music for inspiration. When I listen to my my own music, I generally enjoy it because I generally make music I like. Therefore I tend to listen and think of things I'd change.

My inspiration comes from head movies. ....generally....

NO! Not movies about BJs. ...although, not discounted.

Who knew widmer hefeweizrn came in 22 ounce bottles?

Wow androids typing correction is pretty good now

Rabid Garfunkel wrote:Best procrastination method ever: listen to *everything* you've ever recorded in the hopes of finding some sort of inspiration/something you can clean up and flog for some cash, hehh.

Well, for me, that would be almost a thousand songs... I'm closing in on it. Oddly enough, I've hooked up with somebody who made a kids' exercise video with commercially available music (copyright problems) and wants me to do new music, and I'm thinking about doing instrumental versions of some of my old-ish churchly worship songs... which nobody will recognize, but which should fit in with the exercise stuff they're doing... but I gotta get on it right away...

Charles (KA)

Go man, go! Life gets in the way of music (and creation) far too often. Persevere!

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